Self Development And How To Be A Winner in Life

Self DevelopmentSelf development experts say that your actions are a true reflection of your thinking. This is to say that your attitude matters a lot. Personal attitude makes all the difference between a winner in life and a loser. It is further said that you can change anything and everything if you change your mind set. What the mind has decided the body cannot defy.

Hence you must never doubt yourself if you want to achieve self development. Failure is the reward for those who have the audacity to demean themselves. If you do not value and respect yourself then no one will respect you. Thus your first step in becoming a winner in life is by admiring your strengths and knowing that you deserve the good things in life.

Nevertheless, confidence and self-assurance are not in themselves adequate. You need to have a plan of action, a strategy for attaining self development. Careful planning, rationality and creativity are the irreplaceable ingredients required at every facet of life in order to achieve success in life. Not forgetting to take action in whatever you set to do.

Many people fail because of not taking action. Therefore, if you have a vision and a good plan remember to strategize on how you are going to act on it. As the say “Procrastination is the thief of time”. Hence you will need to do what you can today and not tomorrow if you are to attain self development. In reality ‘tomorrow’ never comes.

In any case, the best preparation for tomorrow is by doing your best today and with the available resources. Also failure comes sooner to those who wait for the perfect opportunities since they will never come.

To be a winner in life is really therefore a matter of knowing what you want and going right for it. Never hesitate to seize an opportunity; you might pay with your life thus the secret of self development.


How to Safeguard Your Intelligence

md1Everyone has intelligence because we are born with it. It’s how you apply it that makes the difference. Parents help in this regard as they can easily direct a young child with chances to learn and be ahead of the pack. In this age we see young kids reading and writing before they even start school. Some are so smart they can do amazing things like Mozart, for example, who played music in concert halls in Europe at the age of 6, although he was an exception.

Intelligence is not just being smart it’s about solving problems. Every animal can do that in regards to their safety, requirements, and reproduction. Some animals are much smarter than their counterparts and they become teachers for their pack. That is how they adapt to new things and even new environments.

Improving your brain power is not always the result of education. Some people can’t even read and write but they know how to survive and even how to run a business. In recent years we have seen people who could not complete high school invent systems that are now household items, such as the Internet.

Reading is a big part of modern learning and it is an escape route for many who get absorbed into books that take them on mental journeys into the unknown. An appreciation of books starts when young and through an interest generated when they are read out.

Adults, however, have set minds and that means it is harder to take on new tasks and succeed, but it can be done. It has nothing to do with your intelligence but a lot to do with control and will power. Old folk are learning computer skills, for instance, and enjoying the thrills of communicating with the world at the click of a mouse.

Looking after the brain is important and something I was aware of from a very young age. It is damaged through knocks, accidents, alcohol, drugs, and other forms of abuse. Overloading it with horror stories and fiction can result in nightmares caused when it tries to expel things that it cannot relate to. Those who are addicted to television programs of that type or to movies may find they are slipping backwards on the intelligence scale.

The brain is an organ that controls and protects the entire body. If it is fed with the right food it will result in improved skills and awareness. If it is abused and impacted with non-intellectual stuff then it will not perform well. One of my favourite adages is: “what you eat today walks and talks tomorrow.”


What The Experts Haven’t Told You About Programming Your Mind For Success

We’ve all heard the famous quotes or phrases like:

“Mind over matter.”

“If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you’re right.” – Henry Ford

“As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” Prov 23:7

I will even go as far to say that most people can agree with the power your mind has and the results you get from your deep seeded beliefs. But, what I see very little of, is HOW to change your mindset.

Statements like “Just change the way you think about it” make it sound so easy. The concept is simple- but the application is an entirely different story.

If changing the way you think about things were easy, then everyone would know how to get unstuck. Professionals such as counselors, psychologists and life coaches would become obsolete.

Our mind and the way we have been programmed to think through our experiences, hurts, culture, and the environment we were raised in is not as easy to transform as one may hope.

BUT it absolutely can be done. People radically transform their lives as a result of first radically transforming their mind and ultimately their heart.

The bible tells us to “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” Prov 4:23 NLT

This is a commonly misinterpreted scripture. People use this scripture to justify putting walls up, and distancing themselves from painful situations and even people. While there is wisdom with setting boundaries and taking necessary action when a boundary is crossed, it does not mean to harden your heart with bitterness, fear, anger, resentment and unforgiveness.

You actually guard your heart by what you allow into your mind. What you perpetually think about will become deeply rooted into your thought processes that it becomes a subconscious (heart) belief. From the subconscious (heart) belief is where we speak, act, and get results.

“… out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.” – Luke 6:45 NKJV

Further biblical scripture backs this up when Jesus shares about receiving what we ask for and desire in prayer.

22 Then Jesus said to the disciples, “Have faith in God. 23 I tell you the truth, you can say to this mountain, ‘May you be lifted up and thrown into the sea,’ and it will happen. But you must really believe it will happen and have no doubt in your heart. 24 I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours. 25 But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.” Mark 11: 22-25 NLT

What you say, and believe in your heart, is what you get.

Unforgiveness begets unforgiveness.

Having a confident belief that your Heavenly Father loves you and delights in giving you what you ask for results in receiving what you asked for.

(Side Note: When do you receive it? You receive it the moment you ask for it. Notice the past tense? “If you believe you have RECEIVED it, it will be yours.” (but it may take a while for it to manifest- just remember to thank God that He already gave it to you, and praise Him for it. THEN you will SEE it manifest).

Now I will caution you here – this is not a name it and claim it teaching that supports treating God like a vending machine where you put your prayer order in and he just spits it out to you exactly as ordered. But He will answer you and give you what you need.

And from my experience, the bigger, bolder and more audacious your prayer is- the more that delights and pleases Him, and He certainly will give you what you ask for… But be prepared for a major season of intense training to receive that big, bold answer to your prayer(s).

To sum things up, your mindset is another way to describe your subconscious heart belief. Positive imaging, visualizing your success, and positive affirmations are all great ways to transform your mind, heart, and attitude for success and abundance- however, all that effort will be null in void if you harbor unforgiveness.


Dreams That Become Reality

Many consider dreams as messages from God and they relive them during their waking hours. They repeat them to a ready audience and some write articles about them. They are also the subject of fictional stories because people love what comes from the minds of others. What they don’t realise is how much such dreams run the world. It is the dreams of men and their imagination that set up the systems behind the World Order.

Dreams can, therefore, become reality and it is the interpretation of such that makes mysteries and strengthens the wall of confusion. It is that blockage to reality that my life is now focused on since my reincarnation gave me insight into its roots.

The difference between a dream and knowledge is that the latter has evidence in support of it. That is where the Spirit led me to discover the evidence to undo the things that block the minds of those who want to know and who, therefore, are seeking truth.

There is no better way to say what is right than to just say it. Of course it will turn people off who love their dreams and believe they are something other than what they are. It will also hurt those who have their minds set on spending an eternity in heaven, which does not exist. Hell is also non-existent and it has been a terror tactic of religions to force people to comply with their doctrines.

The difference between a dream and a vision is that the latter happens when one is awake and able to absorb it. The former is something the mind does by way of restoring itself and getting rid of the accumulated fiction of the previous day. To make them a reality, however, is foolhardy but then again dreams are the inspiration of the modern world.


This Is What A Perfect Day For Your Brain To Looks Like

We all know what we’re supposed to do to keep our bodies healthy, limber, and long-lasting. But how do you start treating your brain better so it works at its best today and will keep working at its best tomorrow?

Unlike diets in which you can see that you’ve lost either weight or inches-brain boosting is a tougher thing to track. Although there has been an explosion in brain research over the past decade, much of the work has been done on the elderly, and a lot of the findings show intriguing levels of correlation but, in fact, fall short of actual cause and effect. And the only true examination of your brain comes when you don’t really need it anymore at autopsy.

Scientists’ original goal was to prevent both structural and functional changes. Now researchers are trying to understand why some people have what is called cognitive reserve, which is the ability to maintain most or all normal brain function even after negative changes such as Alzheimer’s disease, dementia, or decreased memory-occur. So, even if you have a strong family history of mental decline in later years, what you do or don’t do right now could make all the difference in keeping your brain in top condition.

When you wake up 6 am: Wake up and smell the coffee. One of the scents most stimulating to the brain is coffee, So even if you don’t plan to drink any, you should still brew some and take a good, long sniff. Or better yet, actually drink a cup. In one French study, women age 65 or older who knocked back more than three 5-ounce cups a day were 33% less likely to experience a decline in verbal fluency than those who drank less than a cup. Voila! 7 am: Fill up on brain food. Enjoy a power breakfast high in brain-healthy foods such as blueberries, on top of cereal or fat-free yogurt. Blueberries’ antioxidant properties are wonderful, but they also increase blood flow to the brain, which, in turn, improves your neuronal function. (Try these power breakfasts to boost your brain.) 8 am: During breakfast, play a game. Time yourself while working a crossword or Sudoku over your eggs and bacon.

It’s a great way to boost attention, processing speed, and positive intellectual engagement. Or try these 7 brain games designed to boost your thinker. Mid-morning 9 am: Turn off your GPS. This nifty device actually prevents you from using the parts of your brain involved in spatial navigation, as well as the hippocampus, which controls memory and orientation. The stimulation of your brain peaks at 9 am, so save the GPS for when you’re really lost, okay? 10 am: Get a move on. At the gym, focus on cardio, which may increase the volume of the hippocampus. If you can’t get to the gym, then park a half mile away from the office. Why? Because one of the surest ways to get enough exercise to maintain brain health is to walk at least 1 mile a day. 11 am: Lighten up! Reconfigure your lighting with full-spectrum bulbs to stimulate alertness and enhance critical brain functions, such as memory, as well as influence mood. Experts say this kind of light actually mimics what humans were accustomed to before electric illumination. At lunch Noon: Get your eyes and ears checked before lunch. By your mid-40s, it’s time to start making sure you’re regularly checking both your vision and your hearing-vision, annually; hearing, right away to get a baseline and then intermittently with an audiogram, so input to the brain remains optimal. 1 pm: Make a lunch with crunch. Carrots, celery, and green bell peppers are easily some of the best sources of luteolin, which may contribute to reducing the risk of dementia. You can also cook more often with olive oil or drink peppermint and chamomile teas, which contain luteolin. 2 pm: Have a nap attack. While we’ve all heard about the benefits of a delicious 30-minute are longer afternoon snooze. The people who took the longer nap increased their ability to learn,.

The brain clears short-term memories, leaving room for new and fresh learning. In the afternoon 3 pm. The more experienced people are at doing, the more parts of their brains are engaged, So push yourself beyond the basic altogether. 4 pm: Give up smoking once and for all. it’s been recently proven that middle-aged men and women who smoke almost double their risk of “memory deficit and a decline in reasoning abilities.” cessation. Call this reason to stop puffing and start breathing better now! 5 pm:

Drive home via a different route. One of the keys to brain health is breaking routines, It’s the small changes in rote procedures that give your brain a workout. So tonight at dinner, make sure to change where you sit at the table. Around dinner 6 pm: Prepare a dinner rich in omega-3s. Increasing your intake of the omega-3 fatty acid DHA-found in salmon, tuna (especially bluefin), sardines, and herring has been linked with better nonverbal reasoning and vocabulary. 7 pm: Eat with family or friends. One of the factors most protective of the brain later in life is regular social interaction, friends every woman needs.) 8 pm: Toss the remote. Turns out every hour spent watching the tube when you’re between ages 40 and 59 increases your risk of developing dementia by 1.3%. Each hour spent on intellectual activities decreases Alzheimer’s risk by 16%, and an hour of socializing causes an 18% decline in risk. Before bed 9 pm: Say it in Spanish! People who are bilingual are better multitaskers.


Mood Shifts (How to Do Em As Consciousness)

The other day I woke up at 1:30am and couldn’t get back to sleep. It wasn’t one of those super-energized, spiritual experiences where you have transcended time and effortlessly flow from one moment to the next.

This was tracking multiple people’s experiences across several time zones, and also processing “stuff” on multiple levels of reality.

I was pretty grouchy when I had to start my work day.

Mood Shifts

I felt like I had jet lag. And I had a bunch of stuff to do, and a group of people to meet with in the afternoon.

Caffeine didn’t improve things. It wasn’t a body-level experience of being tired.

Meditation techniques wouldn’t work – at least with my experience of others’ realities.

It shifted after I met with my business partner about our radio show. Talking about Consciousness with someone who works in the same realms as I do, with similar sensitivities, always lifts the energy.

And, I needed to shift mySelf into a space where things felt better.

Not shifting by body through caffeine, sugar, etc. (a nap wasn’t an option but I hate naps so it would have made me grouchier).

Not shifting my personality focus. More than an emotional level things were going on.

I shifted my state of Being into a space where things felt better.

It shifted my experience of where I was in that time and place.

Reality is changing so rapidly, we need to be on our toes.

The old way of doing it would have been either mentally changing your mindset, or physically addressing your issue. Your body could be reacting to all the changes, like a little kid responds to the atmosphere in places or to doing more that a little kid can handle.

Shifting your state of Being takes your body with you into a new experience. Like lifting your little kid up and putting it down somewhere that feels better. It doesn’t have to process from one place to the next. It just needs to be in the new place!

The way I do this is by stepping through a series of doors, each one shifts you to a new state of Being. It’s similar to stepping into parallel Universes (but with that technique you often only need to step through *one* door). The series of doors lifts you incrementally to the new state.

The outer world may not change but your inner world does. And it changes your experience of the outer world. You’re able to see and appreciate the beauty around you. You’re able to notice what’s different.

People may change because your perspective has changed. Your circumstances may change because you’re open to more possibilities.

As with all the techniques I talk about, they work when you have a playful attitude about them. (You can be playful even when grouchy, since Consciousness is always playful, and is your non-grouchy self that is doing the shifting)!

Try this for the next week and see what happens!


How to Overcome Your Negative Self Talks in 3 Steps

Self talks are things we tell ourselves, often in a subconscious way, that we believe to be true. They are not necessary true. In fact, they are often left unexamined, unchallenged and unverified. They are simply assumed to be true. Often, when we have properly examined them, they turn out to be otherwise.

Negative self talks are things we tell ourselves that negatively impact our lives. A common example is “I am not good enough”. Another one is “I am a bad person”. Negative self talks such as these are detrimental to our well being. They are harmful to our self esteem as well as to our physical health.

Everyone has negative self talks. We differ only in the degree or frequency of negative self talks. The good news is that we can change and reduce this unbeneficial mental habit.

1. Learn to be aware of your thoughts

Most people are not very aware of their own thoughts. By this, I do not mean that they do not know their thoughts entirely. We are all aware of our conscious talks. However, there is another layer of talks further below this conscious level that many are not very aware of. Very often, our self talks are found in this deeper level.

The way to become more aware of these self talks is by being more mindful. This would require a purposeful act of paying attention to our thoughts as they arise. In the beginning, this may feel awkward and foreign to our habits. With repeated practice, we can become better at paying attention to our own thoughts.

2. Pick out the negative self talks

Once we are good at noticing our thoughts, we can then pick out those negative self talks that often prevent us from becoming our best. For now, leave the positive self talks alone.

3. Challenge the negative self talks

Very often, negative self talks are found to be untrue when they are properly and honestly examined and challenged. They are often simply excuses we made up so that we can continue to stay “safe” in our comfort zones. Recognize that these are mental barriers that we ourselves have unconsciously erected, and they prevent us from facing up to our fears as well as stop us from overcoming our self-imposed limitations.

To challenge your negative self talks, ask yourself:

1. “Is it true?”
2. Can you be absolutely sure that it is true?
3. How would you feel if it were not true?

The goal is to challenge the truth of your own thoughts. Our natural habit is to resist this, and we can recognize this resistance by noticing the discomfort and anxiety that arise. Allow the anxiety to be. There is no need to act on the anxiety. Simply watch it arising, and with time, it will pass, just as all feelings do.


How to Get Over Feeling Emotionally Numb

Yesterday I had the opportunity to revisit many conflicting feelings. My own emotional state was joyful – I am starting a small online coaching group and have been contacting select people about it. It feels wonderful to connect and share this great opportunity with folks.

And at the same time, someone acted unconsciously and it really lit me up. I was outraged, I felt competitive and territorial. I wanted to be really aggressive and confrontational. I was very surprised at my reaction. It felt like I was revisiting old situations. It was in total contrast with the expansive conversations I was having with potential clients.

It was so extreme, I knew not to react (although I did send a couple emails, heavily edited and carefully worded).

The next morning there was an apology and it all came out as benign. It may actually lead to a beneficial partnership!

In the old, prehistoric, days I would have believed the thoughts running through my head. I would have reacted. And it would have been *me* that would have ended up apologizing!

Has this ever happened to you? Someone does something, triggers a reaction in you, your mind makes up a story about it, and your thoughts are off and running. You’re on a roller coaster of emotions that have little to do with reality.

When we believe our stories, we’re not in our Truth. We’ll be derailed by them.

It was telling for me that this all came up when I was in the midst of launching this class. It’s going to be very transformative and empowering for many people. No wonder shadow-side gremlin voices want to get us off track.

I have a personal slogan, ‘Don’t react dramatically, even if it seems dramatic’! Drama is always an indicator of dysfunction, and lower frequency states of being.

You don’t have to react dramatically, especially if *you* feel dramatic. Give yourself 24 hours to simmer down. You’ll make more empowered choices when you do.

If it’s an emergency, it’s always better act with a clear head, rather than react, but real emergencies don’t occur every day so it’s pritnear impossible to know how you’ll respond)!

Collectively, we’re in the midst of a lot of changes. People are protesting, rising up against injustice. We are rebelling against perceived restrictions. Other people are saying and doing chaotic and insane things. Each side feels passionately right. And both sides feel powerless. Both sides feel like the other side is threatening them in some way.

What we’re really reacting to is the dying of the things we’ve identified with and with the old ways of being. You can actually have a graceful transition if you focus on being in the present moment. When you’re in present time, the past ceases to exist. When you’re here and in the Now, you can feel yourself as Consciousness. You are your full, essential self.


12 Things Mentally Strong People Avoid

1. Surrendering Their Power

Mentally strong people are well aware of their prowess to manage any situation by the way they respond. They know their strength is in knowing their weaknesses. They refuse to give away their power to fully control their actions and emotions.

2. Resisting Change

Change is a part of life and mentally strong people are well aware of this fact. So, instead of resisting change, they go with the flow and take this change as a challenge, a challenge to better them. They make their own opportunities and know how to make the best of every passing moment.

3. Being Hasty in Results

“Haste Makes Waste”, a well-known proverb throughout the galaxy, is well acknowledged by mentally strong people. They implement it in their lives. They know, be it a workout plan or starting a business, nothing succeeds over a night. They recognize the fact that expecting immediate results is a task for lunatics. They plan out their work for the long run and celebrate each milestone on the way.

4. Feeling Superior Then Others

Mentally strong people realize the fact that they are not superior to anyone. This world does not owe them anything. They were born equal and will remain equal to others, no matter their heritage or bloodline. They know they`ll have to strive to survive in this world. And they`re prepared to tackle the difficulties and succeed on their merits at every turn of life.

5. Being Worried for Uncontrollable Matters

One thing, mentally strong people have a complete control on, is their attitude towards problems. You won`t see such people complaining about things that don`t matter or situations that are beyond their control, such as bad traffic or whether. Instead they concentrate their time and energy on projects that`ll affect their life in a positive way.

6. Being Worried of Their Image

Ever seen people who go out of their way to please others? Or people who do so just to irritate others? Both are self-centered people who care for nothing except their fake image on the world and people around them. Mentally strong people stay out of such practices. They know when to be kind and affectionate and when to stand up for what`s right.

7. Being Afraid of Time with Themselves

Mentally strong people enjoy good company of other people and also of themselves. They treasure their alone time and use it to reflect on their life choices and plan for a better and brighter future. They know how to benefit from their alone time by putting their efforts in something productive.

8. Being Afraid to Try Again

Some people are too afraid to try again; they just give up after failure. Such is not the case with mentally strong people. They know success and failure go hand in hand. Even the most successful people started from scratch and had to face failures before they got where they are now. Mentally strong people know that they`ll have to try, try again to succeed.

9. Being Jealous

Mentally weak people resent other peoples success. They become jealous and think of ways to turn their success into failure. While mentally strong people do the opposite. They, not only, feel genuinely happy and contended for the succeeding, but also take notes from their success and use them to shape their own path to success.

10. Being Afraid of Taking Risks

A mentally strong person knows his strengths and weaknesses. He knows risks are a must in the path to success. He also knows the extent of risks that he can take. He thoroughly weighs the negative effects of the risk against its benefits while fully assessing the potential outcomes, before taking a step.

11. Living in The Past

Mentally weak people tend to live in their past. They mourn over the past disappointments and how the times have changed. They want to live in the “splendor days” of the past. Mentally strong people, on the other hand, tend to learn from their past failures instead of indulging in them. They use this experience learned to improve their present and forge a better path for their future.

12. Repeating the Same Mistakes

“What is the definition of insanity? It`s doing the same exact thing again and again and expecting different results” ~Albert Einstein Mentally strong people take full responsibility of their past actions. It`s not like they don`t commit mistakes, they do. It`s about how they respond to their mistakes, their attitude towards them. They learn from their mistakes and incorporate this learning experience in their future decisions.


Your Abilities To Concentrate & Focus Can Be Your Tools For Success

Your abilities to concentrate and focus can be your tools for success! Most people forget about these important abilities when being over whelmed each day.

It is really easy to feel overwhelmed because technology and other distractions have made it almost impossible to really concentrate on one task at a time.

The approach that many people use to deal with their work is to multi-task and while this is an admirable ability it does not do much for solving actual problems or creating new opportunities.

Every day we are bombarded by distractions such as the internet, television, radio and other interruptions when we are trying to work and complete an important assignment.

How much time do you spend each day on the computer searching the social media by using face book, Twitter or checking out the latest antics of the Kardashians and other celebrities? Oh yeah; how much time do you spend on the phone by chatting or texting? All of these events are things that compromise your ability to focus and concentrate when you are trying to be creative!

Perhaps the best example of the power of concentration and focus is sunlight! Sunlight is the one thing that promotes life, however, if you concentrate the power of sunlight by using a magnifying glass it can be destructive and burn things.

Taking the example of light even further with the use of technology it can be concentrated even further and turned into laser beams. It is unimaginable of what can be done with the human brain and the power of concentration.

You have the ability to use the power of concentration and focus your thoughts to create success beyond your wildest dreams!

When you are faced with a major problem or you want to create something you can utilize your brain power to accomplish anything you want. Try incorporating these steps into your creative process.

    1. Avoid distractions! Remove anything that will distract you; this includes your telephone, television and your computer unless you are using it to help your thought process.


    1. Write a short description of what you are trying to resolve or create.


  1. Brain Storm with yourself and itemize all the things that come to mind no matter how absurd they sound. Basically, let your mind loose to do the work it can do to provide a solution. Once you have identified or outlined what you are trying to accomplish let your mind wander.

Do not allow yourself to become frustrated if nothing that happens immediately! Once the seed is planted your mind will continue working on the issue and it will provide a solution sooner or later. Then all of a sudden the solution will come to you when you least expect it!

Learn to work smarter rather than harder!


Some Great Ways to Nurture Your Mind

Being healthy doesn’t always mean not having any physical ailment. You could be very healthy and physically fit but still experience sadness more than happiness, mental fatigue, and irritation and many such things.

Psychological health is the condition of your mind and emotions. It is as important as your physical well-being because your mind channels energy to your body. This means that if your mind is sad, no matter how healthy you are, nothing will feel good.

Let’s look at some symptoms of psychological distress –

• Irritable mood – it can include facing difficulties with sleeping, lack of concentration, low energy, loss of interest in things, anxiety, etc.

• Changes in behaviour – short temper, making sudden shifts between being happy and sad, indulging in more arguments with people, among other things.

• Social interaction – withdrawing from people, or being overly interactive in order to drown out one’s own thoughts and anxiety in public places.

• Drop in grades and staying behind all the deadlines, losing interest in even the most favourite chore, feeling the need to just sit doing nothing for hours on end.

If you’re feeling any such things, it could your mind’s way of alerting you about its illness. There is nothing to worry about because if there is a problem, there is also a solution to it.

Let’s look at some easy ways in which you can boost your mental health quotient-

• Look after your basic needs – we all have two very basic needs as human beings: eating and sleeping. If you haven’t given your body enough food or sleep it can start to feel lethargic and moody. Let’s compare it to a car for better understanding. No matter how fancy and new the car is, if you don’t put petrol and keep its battery charged, it won’t deliver its best.

• Don’t compare – we are all different people, unique in our own ways. There may be so many things you’re not good at that your friends excel at, but there must also be just as many things where you are better than them. If you keep comparing yourself to others you will never find happiness. You must understand that no one is better than anyone because everyone is so different.

• Know your strengths and weaknesses – you are your biggest critic and biggest fan. It is very important for you to know your own positive and negative points. This helps you because then you know the areas in which you can push yourself to achieve excellence and those in which you can take baby steps to improve. A quote by Einstein can explain this point better, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

• Don’t forget to laugh – laughter is the best medicine and nobody can disagree. Even if you have to force yourself to laugh, the activity releases chemicals inside your brain that calm it down and fill it with positivity.

• Connect with others – nothing can lift your spirits better than other people. If you are feeling too low, go out and meet some friends, meet new people. Even if it is for a short time, they can make you forget all your woes.

• Get active – an empty mind is a devil’s workshop. If you sit idle for too long, your mind gets an opportunity to dwell on negative thoughts. By keeping it busy for long, it not only becomes sharp but also stays healthy.

• Don’t lose hope – this is one of the most important things you must remember. Life is not a smooth road; it is a rollercoaster ride. When you are experiencing upswings it won’t look so bad but it is when you are down below that you must remember to not lose hope. Disappointments are like road bumps, they slow you down a bit but enjoy the smooth ride after words. Don’t stay on the road bumps too long.

• Gratitude – Being grateful for every little thing in your life goes a long way in keeping you mentally and emotionally stable, a simple Thank you to the universe for a pleasant day, food to eat, Family support, friend circle, a job etcetera brings in a sense of peace and joy which has the ability to multiply when we are grateful.

Only because your mind and emotions don’t hurt physically or leave scars doesn’t mean they don’t need your attention. You need to look after yourself both physically and mentally because these aspects of well-being are very strongly interconnected.


Brain Fitness

I’m smarter now than I was as a kid and young adult. And I’m more youthful now than before too. Are you?

There were times along the way I knew I was going to be in trouble as a senior, that age “everybody” seems to agree where your brain quits working so well. Have you ever spent time looking for something that you were holding in your hand, or wearing on your head, before someone helped you by finding it for you? Yeah, not fun. My first time at that was as a 16 year old. Oops!

There are some interesting steps you can take to improve your mental function, your brain fitness. The first trick I learned was the importance of doing exercises that have you crossing your vertical mid-line. That means, for example, as you move your left leg up and over to the right, you move your right arm across to the left – both limbs crossing your mid-line (the imaginary line that runs the length of your body from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet). Take the same actions with your right leg and left arm. Repeat this cycle several times (5- 20, as you see fit).

Another trick is to use your non-dominate hand daily – brush your teeth, write, eat, open doors,… – or let your non-dominate foot start your steps as you take a walk or climb stairs. This trick, as with the first trick I mentioned, builds or strengthens the connections between your right and left brain hemispheres.

You know that your right hemisphere is used for creativity and the left hemisphere is used for math efforts, right? Well, think how much smarter you would be if you used both hemispheres for both activities! That’s what these first two tricks aid – building and strengthening that connection so both hemispheres work together.

The next set of tricks involve stretching and challenging your brain – daily. Learn something new like a word or dance step, work a puzzle or find the animal shapes in the clouds, or tackle a new language or musical instrument.

This next trick is something I’ve done for entertainment value for years; I didn’t know it had brain-strengthening qualities. Avoid ruts. Take a different route to work or the grocery store, do your morning routine backwards (do your morning stretches, brush your teeth, then floss), turn left in the theater instead of right to get to your seat, don’t dress down on “Casual Friday” and instead dress up, if you always travel by train fly or take the bus instead; you get the idea. Do things differently so your brain has to pay attention.

Eating healthy food – whole, unprocessed foods (organic and locally grown, if possible) – is good for your brain fitness too. The brain burns more calories than any other organ in your body, so give it good fuel. You wouldn’t think of putting “junk food” into your car and expect it to be useful. Treat your brain with the same respect. Avoid junk food with all its sugars, chemicals, and empty calories.

Water is also good for your mental agility. Hydrate so that your blood can move through your circulatory system agilely enough to transport food and oxygen to where they do you the most good. You need water to help flush your system of the waste byproducts of living, otherwise all of your organs get junked up and get sluggish. We are about 65% water and it’s your job to keep that level. Hydration is the key.

The other trick I’m thinking of today for keeping your mind working in top-notch order is getting abundant oxygen. To do that you need to move hourly, you need to get outdoors, you need to exercise, and you need to sleep 7-8 hours each night. Most of us move a lot less than we think we do.

With my standing desk and habit of moving throughout the hour (I jog in place while watching YouTube videos or attending webinars) and taking hourly breaks I was surprised to learn I have to push myself to exceed 5,000 steps/day. And a healthy goal, one I’m working towards, is 10,000 steps/day. If you have the habit of walking 1-2 miles/day, as I do in the non-winter months, you have a leg-up on getting your 10,000 steps in each day. If you are moving your lungs have to pump harder to get more oxygen going through your system, and that fuels your mind in wonderful ways.

Ha! I snuck another trick in on you – movement. And to add more value to that trick, walk with a friend so you get social interaction in at the same time.

Keeping a youthful, agile mind is important in keeping your brain from aging and pulling silly tricks on you, tricks like forgetfulness and crankiness. By getting and staying smarter you make it easier to get even more smart – and more youthful. Brain fitness is up to you.